On selfishness and inequality - adrogantiam et inaequalitas in

Dear Mr. Mill,

You are quite aware that life is created unfair. But why? To make way for certain people to grow as human, to grow as they are supposed to be. Life is created unfair because if not, would we desire to grow? Would we desire to actually make a change, be the change and make something happen in our lives? Of course not. The only thing that has been making this world go around are one of these two things or both - selfishness and inequality.

Let's take selfishness. All of us have that tendency to actually neglect other people because of our own selfish reasons. Set aside neglect, we all have the tendency to think of ourselves as superior among others that without our lead, they are nothing. We all have that tendency to be selfish because of the same reason that we care about no one but ourselves. Don't get me wrong, it is not wrong to care about yourself more than other people. But as we take our own selfish path, we fail to realize that people have feelings, too. It's not just us who suffer, or it's not just him, or not that her. No individual person suffers all by himself. The fact that we have let other people into our lives is a clear indication that we want them to partake in our sufferings, our pain, everything, but till when? The extremity of selfishness comes when we fail to recognize other people. Yes, we suffer, we hurt, we feel like everything is going nowhere and we might as well die while taking all the crap other people has to offer.

When we are submerged into our own flood of selfishness, we see no one. Not even the people who cares about us, not even the people who has been there all along, not even the people who are willing to share with the pain just so we could power on. For our own selfish reasons, we fail to realize that while we are hurting, the people who are willing to share with the pain is suffering just the same, that while they have their own crosses to bear, they are there with us, willing to suffer, or even take all the pain so we could not feel anything but their love.

Let's take inequality in the aspect of its name. Remember when we are told that we should not do something that we don't want others to do to us? In a way it's right. I understand very well the thought that it is respect towards other people that makes us have some equality in our bones. However, the case is not always the same. The point on equality is not something the usual soul-altering offenses of corrupt officials to their country but rather a simple act of doing what you want just because you want to do it and expecting other people not to do it because you won't let them. The issue here is not the fact that we are trying to be independent and not letting other people interfere with our affairs, but what's other people got to do? They exist for a reason. They are there to tell us what to and what not to do when we are blinded by our own clouded judgments. in the same way, it should have a vice versa effect on other people. When the time comes that they are also as blinded as we are with their judgments, we should be there to tell them what to and what not to do the same way that they would. But that is not always the case. Because most the time, we believe that we are as independent as we thought to be, we make inequality our ally. We let them do what they want to do and expect them to do the same.

However, life does not work that way, It should work as a two-way street, a give and take, an advantage to both parties not just for one. Inequality in the very sense of the word should not be a way of life for us. We should allow some equality every once in a while. We should let equality do some impact every now and then. As we are all aware, people are only people, they have their limitations, they have their turning points, they have their epiphany. Let's not make selfishness and inequality take away the people who should be in our life. Let not selfishness and inequality make us a wrecked human with no one to turn to. Controlling how we deal with others and how we deal with our life is not something that should be told to us, it is something that we should figure out on our own.

As Aldous Huxley puts it, "It is a bit embarrassing to have been concerned with the human problem all one's life and find at the end that one has no more to offer by way of advice than "try to be a little kinder."

Selfishness is only thinking about yourself and your purposes and taking for granted everything else. Inequality is your will to do something for yourself and not wanting other people to do the same. The Golden Rule says it all, "Do not do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you." It's as simple as that.

But why has selfishness and inequality power the world? Because without selfishness and inequality, we are not human. We don't feel anything. We are contented if these two does not exist, but we are incomplete. We feel nothing. We yearn for nothing from other people. We expect nothing. Just when other people say that the more you expect, the more you will be disappointed is true, but at least, it is part of being human. At least we know that the unseen wounds that hurt the most at night exists. At least we know that we are alive.